God Bless the USA - 9/11/08

In Memory of 9/11/01...

"Pray for those patriots - those modern-day minute men - who are always there to protect us. Pray for the men and women who serve as police officers, fire fighters, EMT's, nurses, and doctors. Pray for every single son and daughter on foreign and domestic soil serving in our armed forces.

And today, in this election year, turn politics aside for just a moment, and pray for those who are willing to take the mantle of national leadership. Pray for their families. Pray for their wisdom, integrity, and safety. Pray that they will seek the will of our God in heaven.

9-11 was a dark day for our nation. May we be beacons of God's light."
(Words of Rick Raines, Pastor of Fairmount Christian Chuch).

Which Way Do I Go?

"Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it." Proverbs 22:6

I've read many child rearing books. Monday I posted my author interview with my latest read, by Rebecca Ingram Powell. She offers a lot of great advice on the middle school years in her book Season of Change. I enjoyed her book and learned a lot.

The bible says "Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it." The problem is what if you don't know which way that is? Oh, yes, I know on the big things, the bible things. I know we should be talking about God all the time. I know they should love the Lord with all their heart and soul and mind, and love their neighbor as themselves. I know they should repent for their sins, and forgive others who sin against them.

But which preschool do you pick? How do you choose whether to home school, private or public educate? How much TV should they watch (this certainly isn't addressed in the bible!). Are video games okay? Should they be allowed to go on sleepovers?

Every decision seems painful. I visualize my child as an adult in therapy..."my mother was the only one who wouldn't let me have a Nintendo DS." How do you train a child in the way they should go...when you don't know which way to go?

I think the answer is indeed found in the bible. If it's not addressed in the bible, perhaps it really isn't as important as I think. TV and video games? Perhaps that falls in the all things in moderation category. Of course I need to make sure the content is appropriate. How about the school issue? Well, I think as long as you prayerfully make your decision any choice is okay. The real issue is are you teaching your child about Jesus.

I think as moms we need to give ourselves permission to fail. That's right, fail. We aren't perfect. We are sinners. We are going to screw up, lose our cool, make mistakes, and get it wrong. Like our kids, we need to be able to repent and forgive...ourselves! What a great learning experience for our kids, to learn by our mistakes. We can learn from our mistakes too.

Finally, remember 1 Peter 4:8. "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins." Love your kids when they mess up. Just like our heavenly Father loves us when we do.

**Postscript: I just visited Rebecca's Place this morning, and her blog today completely and unintentionally has a great segway from my article. ("How will they know which way to go?") Must be a God thing. So to get some great insights from someone who is quickly becoming my "Mentor Mom" visit her blog.

Ephesians 6:1-4 ESV -- Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Deuteronomy 6:5-9 ESV -- You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

1 John 2:1 -- "My little children, these things I write to you, that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous."

Season of Change: Author (R.I. Powell) Interview

Arguably, the two most daunting times of motherhood are the newborn baby stage and the middle school years. (Although the terrible two’s would get an honorable mention). Rebecca Ingram Powell’s first book, "Baby Boot Camp: Basic Training for the First Six Weeks of Motherhood" covered the new born stage. She has recently published her next parenting book called “Season of Change: Parenting Your Middle Schooler with Passion and Purpose.”

I have the honor of kicking off Rebecca’s blog book tour, and had the chance to interview her.

Rebecca Ingram Powell (RIP): Kelly, thanks so much for having me today on your blog! I love that your blog is kicking off my tour!

Your book title talks about parenting with passion. I think most parents would admit that many days they wake up less than enthusiastic about facing their middle schoolers. Where do you find your passion, and how do you keep it?

RIP: I think a lot of times we forget that while passion is an emotion, it is also very much a decision that we make. We have to choose to be passionate, even when the passionate feelings are absent! When it comes to parenting, I find that keeping my goals in mind makes the biggest difference. When my children were little, I came before the Lord requesting that He show me what my vision for them should be. The result was this prayer:

My vision for my children is that they become mature Christians: leading godly lives, holding the Bible as the standard by which all else is measured, capable of offering wise counsel to others, and totally accountable to God for their whole conduct and every thought.
My prayer is that each one chooses submission to the Lord over his or her selfish will and that they would enjoy abundant life through a close, personal relationship with the living Christ, loving Him with all of their hearts, minds, and souls. May these children be “pillars of the church, soldiers of the cross, and true servants of Jesus.” This I pray in that blessed, wonderful name of Jesus, Amen.

The quote slipped in there is from Luis Palau’s prayer for his sons. I find that keeping that vision in front of me gives the passion and purpose to my parenting. I’m not doing this for nothing! I have a goal in mind. The occasional bad day, bad attitude, or bad mouth cannot discount the importance of the matter at hand: raising my kids for Christ.

With all the changes facing Middle Schoolers, "Season of Change" is such an appropriate title. What is one of the most important issues facing middle schoolers today, and what can parents do to help them address this issue?

RIP: One of the most important issues our kids face is the same one that we did when we were growing up: self-image. Our kids do not understand who they are, largely due to the fact that they don’t understand who God is. Parents can address this issue by teaching their kids reverence.

Reverence is a word that is largely obsolete in today’s society. But reverence is a virtue that gives our children the foundation for the purpose of their being. What I mean by that is this: Understanding that there is an Almighty God who created humanity with purpose and privilege in mind gives us a great sense of worth and value! King Solomon said, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.” We have to start with God. When we give our children a right understanding of who He is and therefore, who they are, they understand:

They were created for God’s plan. He has a direction for their lives!
They were created for God’s purpose. He wants to use them to accomplish great things!
They were created for God’s pleasure. He not only loves them, but He LIKES them—pimples, frizzy hair, knobby knees, and all!

Your book promotes ideas that seem to be in contrast to the world, like modesty, reverence, accountability, and "Drastically Different Dating" (which is not dating by worldly standards, but protecting purity). How can we encourage our children to be different, when at this age they simply want to fit in, not stand out?

RIP: In many ways, Kelly, Christian parents should be encouraging their kids to be different from the beginning! Let me give you an example: Rich (my husband) and I have never celebrated Halloween. Our convictions have always been very firm in that. That decision was something that our families and many of our friends did not really understand. During Children’s Church one Sunday in October, when my daughter was in 1st grade, the class was making jack-o’-lanterns for their craft. Danya told the teacher that she knew her mom would not want her to participate. The teacher said, “Well, you’ll have to go sit down over there (away from the other children) because this is all I brought.” When Danya told me later that day what had happened, I replied: “Danya, I am so proud that you didn’t do something you knew I didn’t want you to do, even though I wasn’t there, and even though everyone else was doing it. I know that when you’re a teenager, if someone asks you to smoke a cigarette or drink a beer, you’ll say ‘no’ because you’ve learned how to be different.”

As Christians, we should be set apart. We should be different. The key to marketing different-ness to our middle schoolers is in making that “set apart-ness” risky, real, and relevant. I think that comes in active ministry. It comes in letting them see what a difference being different makes! Take them to the soup kitchens, the crisis pregnancy centers, and to juvenile court sometime. Let them see what “cool” looks like when it is undressed, so to speak. Show them the real consequences that people face when they make poor choices. You want to cultivate a heart of compassion while at the same time raising a spirit of determination to live God’s way and choose to be blessed.

Plus, I can’t say enough about praying for your kids. It’s critical to cover them in prayer—every day. Pray for God to work in their hearts. Ask Him for role models in people your kids know personally who are actively following Christ. Also, ask God if you are helping or hindering the “cool” aspect of Christianity. What does your own walk with Christ look like? Does it look like something your kids would be attracted to—a vital, vibrant relationship with the living Lord? Or does it look like being a Christian is something you’re only doing on Sunday and not worrying about the rest of the week? God has a way of revealing our true colors.

Kelly, thank you so much for getting this blog tour started!

Thank you for the honor, Rebecca. God bless you as you minister to families.
To purchase Rebecca's book, visit this link at Proverbs 31.
To purchase from Amazon.com (currently out of stock) click the book image to the right.
Follow Rebecca's blog tour - next blog stop (Tuesday) "To love, honor and vacuum."

Rebecca Ingram Powell is a pastor’s wife, homeschooling mother of three, and a nationally known author and speaker. She is the author of Baby Boot Camp: Basic Training for the First Six Weeks of Motherhood (for new and expectant moms), Wise Up! Experience the Power of Proverbs and Get Real! Embrace the Reality of Ruth (for teen girls), and Dig Deep: Unearthing the Treasures of Solomon's Proverbs (for teen guys), and her newest release, Season of Change: Parenting Your Middle Schooler with Passion and Purpose. Since 2003, Rebecca has been a monthly columnist for ParentLife magazine, writing the popular feature, "A Mom's Life." Her articles have appeared in HomeLife, BabyLife, and The P31 Woman, and other Christian publications as well as numerous websites including Pastors.com and Crosswalk.com.

Adjustments

It stars out with a back ache. Next thing you know it's a pain in the neck. Finally it's a full fledged headache that Advil won't touch. Now there's no doubt about it. I need to see the chiropractor. My back's out of whack!

At the chiropractor's office he applies a little pressure here, a minor adjustment there and CRACK! I'm a new woman. But chiropractic care is a strange thing. I need to keep going even when I feel okay. By continuing to go in and get adjusted, my back stays in line - no headaches! But if I don't go in, things start moving, little by little - until here I go again! My back's out of whack!

My Christian life is just like that. It starts out with getting out of the habit of reading the bible. Next thing you know you're not praying. Finally you're faced with full fledged sin and even Aleve won't alleviate it! I need to see the Holy Spirit. My spiritual life is out of whack!

Just like the chiropractor, the Holy Spirit also applies pressure in my life. The pressure for me to make my own minor adjustments...to my schedule to allow more time for bible reading, to my priorities, to make sure I'm putting prayer before other things. Suddenly - I'm a new woman!

But just like chiropractic care, I need to continue with it. If I don't, things start moving, little by little until - here I go again! My spiritual life is out of whack!

Take a look at your spiritual posture today - it is out of whack? If so, visit the great physician and see if you can make some adjustments in your life to get BACK to God.

Psalm 119:169-176 --
May my cry come before you, O LORD; give me understanding according to your word.
May my supplication come before you; deliver me according to your promise.
May my lips overflow with praise, for you teach me your decrees.
May my tongue sing of your word, for all your commands are righteous.
May your hand be ready to help me, for I have chosen your precepts.
I long for your salvation, O LORD, and your law is my delight.
Let me live that I may praise you, and may your laws sustain me.
I have strayed like a lost sheep. Seek your servant, for I have not forgotten your commands.

p.s. Regarding Wednesday's post, I am not considering any surgeries...I just know how judgemental I have been in the past and felt convicted of that because I have had the "minor" stuff done (just started getting highlights this year.) So thought I'd share.

Don't forget Monday is my author interview with Rebecca Ingram Powell. See you then!

Improvements & Repairs

What would you say if I told you I was thinking about getting acrylic nails? Nothing too flashy, just some tips to extend the length of my nail, not too long, with a french manicure. Would you say:

a) Good for you! You go girl!

b) You should be happy with the nails the good Lord gave you. Sinner!
c) Why is she blogging about this?

Now, what if it wasn't nails. What if I told you I was going to wash that gray right out of my hair? Or perhaps put in some highlights to give me that "sun-kissed" look. "Go girl!" or "Sinner!"?

What if it was Botox I was about to get? What if I was going to "express myself" (as the Botox commercial tag line says) by rendering my forehead unable to make an expression? Do I still get a "Go Girl!" or am I crossing some line into the unacceptable?

What if I'm getting a nose job? Would it make a difference if I had a nose the size of Alfred Hitchcock...or just my not model material but not awful nose? Would one qualify me for a "Go Girl!" while the other is a "Sinner!"?

What if it was breast implants I was getting. Surely now I've fallen into the sinner category. I mean those things just sexualize women, don't they? I mean its one thing to be blessed with big breasts, but if you have small ones you should just be happy with what the good Lord gave you.

Now let's say I told you my daughter is getting braces. (She's a little young for that now, but let's pretend she's older). I'll bet you'd give me a "Go Girl." But why shouldn't we just be happy with the teeth the good Lord gave her?

Why are some improvements in the "Go Girl" category, while others we may think fall into the "Sinner" category. Or maybe you're still answering "Why is she blogging about this?" Well, I'd love to hear your opinions. This can be a hot topic among woman, so I ask that you comment politely. And if you'd like to share about any improvements you've had, feel free to comment anonymously.

As for me, I'm not really considering any of those improvements, per se. Although I have already had some of them in the past. Which ones? Only my hairdresser knows for sure! (as well as my plastic surgeon, nail tech, dermatologist and orthodontist!) *wink, wink*

Psalm 139:14 -- I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

Proverbs 31:30 -- Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

1 Corinthians 6: 19,20 -- Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

Summer's Over....

Today is the First Day of School in Virginia - -
(with my apologies to Sandy, Danny & the cast of Grease)
D1 = 9 yr old daughter, D2 = 4 yr old Daughter

Summer Loving - Had us a blast!
Summer Loving - it went by so fast.
Have 2 girls, they're crazy 'bout me.
Got 1 boy - well, he's my hubby.

Summer days drifting away
To, uh oh, those summer nights

Well-a, well-a, well-a, uh!
Tell me more, tell me more
We didn't go very far...Tell me more, tell me more
To Nags Head in the car.

D1 swam by me, did the pool (not a camp.)
She ran by me, got my suit damp.
Saved D2's life, she nearly drowned
when she showed off splashing around.

Summer sun, vacation begun
But, uh oh, those summer nights
Well-a, well-a, well-a, uh!
Tell me more, tell me more
We fly our new kite
Tell me more, tell me more
now they're starting to fight.

Summer screams don't mean a thing
But, uh oh, those summer nights
Tell me more, tell me more
The days start to lag
Tell me more, tell me more
(my summer sounds like a drag.)

Summers dragging, I need a hand(ah)
Hit the movies, saw Kung Fu Panda.
Saw Kit Kittridge, on the big screen
How long 'til school starts? You know what I mean.
Summer heat, for ice cream we meet
But, uh oh, those summer nights
(Tell me more, tell me more)
(How much dough did I spend?)
(Tell me more, tell me more)
(Can they go to a friends?!)

shoo-bop bop, shoo-bop bop, shoo-bop bop,
shoo-bop bop, shoo-bop bop, shoo-bop bop,
shoo-bop bop, YEH

It got colder, that's where it ended.
So I told them, they'd make new friends
at school where they'll learn 'bout vowels.
Wonder what they're doing now?

Summer dreams ripped at the seam
oh, ah! Mom's got free time now - SCREAM!!!!

(and that my friends, is a scream of joy! Wahoo!)

Holiday Fun

Happy Labor Day! In honor of Labor Day, I'm taking the day off so to speak. I have been tagged & awarded over the weekend, so I'll fill you in on that for fun. Tomorrow I have a funny back to school blog. Wednesday I'll be blogging and wanting to hear your thoughts on a controversial subject, and Friday will be my regular devotional style.

First, Runner Mom has listed my blog as the recipient of the Arte y Pico award. I'm just tickled that she chose my blog based upon creativity, design, interesting material, and contribution to the blogger community. I couldn't begin to pick 5 to give it to in return. I love all of your blogs. Several of you have recently updated your blogs with new pictures, new layout, new guest bloggers, new graduate certificates...I couldn't possible pick just 5. But if I had to pick just 1, I'd pick Edie at Rich Gifts, who's shares the beauty of her blog in free scripture tags, and cool certificates and encouragement for friends. She doesn't just make her own blog beautiful, but she shares that beauty with others for their own blogs.

Speaking of Edie , she tagged me for an Alphabet story and the A-Z of me! She shares her A-Z and asks me to do the same on my blog. I'm not tagging anyone, but if you want to play along, feel free to add the A-Z of YOU to your blog.

Attached or Single? Attached, married for 12 years!

Best Friend? Jesus

Cake or Pie? Cake

Day of Choice? Saturday

Essential Item? Coffee maker and of course computer. :-)

Flavor of Ice cream? Starbucks Java Chip

Gummy Bears or Worms? How about the gummy coke bottles?

Hometown? I don't tell such information - the internet stalkers might get me

Indulgences? Starbucks coffees

January or July? July...January is waaayy to cold.

Kids? 2 precious girls

Last Movie I saw in a Theater? Kit Kittridge - American Girl...did I mention I have 2 daughters?

Middle Name? That whole internet stalker thing prohibits me from sharing.

Number of Siblings? 3

Oranges or Apples? How about a strawberry?

Phobia or Fear? Depends on what we're talking about...there is no fear for those in Christ Jesus

Quote? "Faith is believing when common sense tells you not to." Miracle on 34th Street.

Reason to Smile? Why not?

Tag: Whoever wants to play.

Unknown Fact About Me? I could tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.

Vegetarian or Oppressor of Animals? Um, clearly this a-z quiz was written by a vegetarian. I like steak, I guess I oppress animals. And I don't hug trees either!

Worst Habit? Making bad jokes.

Xrays or Ultrasounds? What?? I guess Ultrasound...and it's a girl! (NOT).

Your favorite Food? Chinese, pizza, chocolate...I like food!

Zodiac? Sign of the Cross - Jesus freak. (I don't do the zodiac).

Have a great Labor Day!

Psalm 62:1 -- My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from him.